Kids Worry, Too
May 27, 2007 at 1:22 am | Posted in Family, Home, Kids, Kids writing, Life, Parenting, Parents, School, Writing | Leave a comment
This is no earthshaking news. It’s obvious that kids have worries. We worry because we’re afraid of something. We worry about monsters under the bed or being in the dark. We worry about mom and dad getting along. We worry about how we look, or what other people think about us. We worry about grades. We worry about money. We worry about being made fun of – and all the usual stuff there is to worry about.
Worry is part of life. Everybody does it. The thing is, we kids don’t know how to deal with it. That’s were you parents come in. We need your help to learn how to take care of worries on our own.
There are lots of things parents can do. I think these are the 4 most important:
1) Acknowledge that my worries are real
All kids’ worries are real – even if there’s nothing real to worry about. A child who knows it’s safe to talk about the monster under the bed, is going to be a lot quicker to make friends with it.
2) Be honest with me
Worries are part of life. Parents have them, too. When a kid realizes they are not the only one in the world worried about getting pimples, they have an easier time looking in the mirror.
3) Affirm me
Love covers a multitude of worries. A kid who knows he is loved and appreciated just as much when he’s worried about something is probably not going to be as worried.
4) Look worries right in the face
A child who is encouraged to openly look at what he’s worried about, is a lot less likely to be overwhelmed by it. When kids can name their worry, it’s easier to deal with what’s causing it.
So what’s the outcome when parents help us kids with our worries? Well, one giant thing is it develops trust between kids and their parents. We’ll know that later in life when more serious worries hit us, like SATs, drugs, peer group pressure and so on, we can count on you to be there for us.
Another thing is we’ll be more self-confident, as we get better at using the skills you helped us learn.
Plus, we get your affirmation, love and acceptance all along the way.
Aren’t these things that every parent wants their child to have?
‘Nuf said.
Learning
May 12, 2007 at 4:10 pm | Posted in Family, Friends, Grades, Home, Homework, Kids, Kids writing, Life, Parenting, Parents, School, Uncategorized, Writing | Leave a commentYou know that story about how Thomas Edison did hundreds of experiments before he got it right and created a light bulb. Well thats a great example of what all of us kids go through. Its just part of our learning prosses, we try things and sometimes it takes us a lot of tries to get it righ, thats just how we learn.
It really helps us kids when our parents are supportive of this. Sometimes parents want to just do everything for a kid instead of letting him or her figure it out for themselves. Which is okay in some situations. But I would advise any parent to make it a habit to let their kids get hands on life experience. Sometimes the best way to succeed is to fail.
Great Days
March 15, 2007 at 12:28 am | Posted in Kids, Kids writing, Writing | Leave a commentI’ve been doing lots of writing lately which is something I’ve not been getting enough of. Its hard sometimes to find a flow when your writing. You may have a great idea about what you want to write but then the right words just escape you. Its important to just be relaxed and let the sentences form in your mind. I find sometimes also that my brain is working faster than I can type (which is pretty fast) and its kind of like running with one leg thats slower than the other and triping over yourself all the time.
The story I’m working on now is one that I’ve been composing in my head for a long time. It started as just a make believe game that me and a friend played, complete with a very intricate story line which I unfortunately didn’t write down. And now its hard to remember all the details. In the end I think it will come out to be one of the best things I’ve ever written but it will take time no matter what.
Tip of the day: Money management tip for kids. When you own someone money make it a priority to pay them back. Getting into debt is a bad habit for anyone to have. Its kind of like fooling yourself saying: ‘I have this much money’ when you really own some of that to someone else. And when they want their money back you may feel pretty stupid for buying that new video game with the money you owed them.
Blog at WordPress.com. | Theme: Pool by Borja Fernandez.
Entries and comments feeds.
